Overcoming Friction in Martial Arts Training

In my 16 years of martial arts training, I have witnessed many individuals come and go. Some attend a free trial class but never return. Others join for a month and then leave without a trace.

Most of these departures stem from scheduling conflicts, previous injuries, lack of enjoyment, and other factors. These reasons can be categorized as "friction." So, what is friction? How does it manifest in training, and what can we do about it?

Understanding Friction in Martial Arts

Definition of Friction

Friction is defined as "the resistance that one surface or object encounters when moving over another" (Thanks, Google). In business, the goal is to make the dream outcome as low-friction as possible. Amazon is a prime example; they are credited with inventing the "Buy now" button—an almost frictionless system.

Friction in Martial Arts

In martial arts, there are numerous points of friction. Ego plays a significant role; you lose a lot when you start. Training is a workout and can be tiring. You might currently be out of shape, or previous injuries may bother you. Additionally, you or your child may not want to attend class.

Achieving a black belt as an adult takes at least five years of dedication, while it can take fifteen years for a child. Your child might not participate at the level they should. Belts aside, mastering martial arts takes time and effort. You won't learn how to fight in just six weeks; it requires many years of practice.

So, many factors contribute to friction, whether you are a parent of a student or a student yourself. Martial arts can be challenging.

Strategies to Overcome Friction

Finding Your Motivation

If you are among the few who love training so much that you end up in a net positive, that's fantastic—just keep training! However, most people train because they feel they need to, not necessarily because they want to.

You might want to lose weight, learn to fight, get your child off screens, or find a social outlet. Whatever your reason, it's crucial to remember it. This way, when you hesitate to drive to class or when your child cries on the sidelines, you can recall why you are there.

Think of it like visiting the dentist. Most adults and kids dislike going to the dentist, but we go because we have a reason. We want our mouths to be healthy. Martial arts is similar. You might not want to go, but you probably need to.

Embracing the Challenge

Embrace the suck! This phrase may sound odd to some, but I genuinely believe in it. You might not enjoy martial arts initially, but you can at least accept the challenge and acclimate to the friction. Your child will adjust over time, and you, as a parent or student, will too. With consistency and time, you may even come to enjoy it.

Building a Support System

Creating a support system can significantly reduce friction. Surround yourself with fellow students, instructors, and family members who encourage you. Share your goals and struggles with them. Having a community can make the journey more enjoyable and less isolating.

Setting Realistic Goals

Setting achievable goals can also help mitigate friction. Instead of focusing solely on the black belt, celebrate small victories along the way. Whether it's mastering a new technique or simply attending class consistently, recognize your progress. This approach can make the journey feel more rewarding.

The Importance of Routine

Establishing a routine can help ease the friction of attending classes. Schedule your training sessions like any other important appointment. Consistency can help make martial arts a regular part of your life, reducing the mental resistance to attending classes.

Exploring Different Styles

If you find that one martial art isn't resonating with you, consider exploring different styles. Each martial art has its unique approach and philosophy. You may discover a style that aligns better with your interests and personality, making it easier to engage and enjoy the training.

The Role of Instructors

Instructors play a crucial role in reducing friction. A supportive and understanding instructor can make a significant difference in your experience. They can provide guidance, encouragement, and personalized feedback to help you overcome challenges. Don't hesitate to communicate your concerns and seek their advice.

The Journey of Self-Discovery

Martial arts is not just about physical training; it's also a journey of self-discovery. As you progress, you'll learn more about yourself, your strengths, and your weaknesses. Embrace this journey, as it can lead to personal growth and resilience.

Conclusion

Martial arts isn't for everyone, and that's perfectly okay. Some individuals take to it like a duck to water, while others learn to appreciate it over time. Remember your "why" and embrace the challenges. You might just learn to love martial arts as I have. If you enjoyed this post, please leave a like! Or sign up for a free class HERE.